walking the talk

some people talk the talk, while some people walk the walk. it is an one-in-a-million chance to be able to find someone who actually talk the walk and walk the talk. due to the fact that you can't always have the best of both worlds, you'd probably prefer the walk-the-walk type of people to spend your life with, because, after all, talk is cheap. who doesn't know how to talk? if you value your words you can sense even their weight so heavy on your tongue, you won't let them out so easily.

oh that's probably just half true. everybody knows how to talk. but a talk is never just words put together forming sentences. i think those who think love is not about what you say but what you do have never heard of the "speech-act theory". - which explains how talking the talk means walking the walk. this world is constructed with language itself, and it alone for a major portion. nothing can come together if everyone just walks their walks in silence. talks shorten procedures and speed things up, under the circumstances that you know what you are talking about. (otherwise talks would still be cheap and cheesy.)

with the right people i am the unstoppable kind of talker, but i also have the tendency to think too fast and too far that i do not even have time to organise my thoughts before they have to be said. i especially know how talks can build things up and destroy all at once. words are powerful. if romeo had not the words juliet would not have fallen for him and they probably would not have died the way they did. i always want to make sure that i have done enough talking with the people i really care about.

i think there is this thing about coming back here to write a lot all the time. last night i chatted with milo and she mentioned how paulo coelho has turned himself from a torch to a fire. it gave me bingo eyes. a part of me thinks i have been setting myself on fire, too.

but through writing i figure things out, and since i know that these written words can somehow be read, it makes me a more serious thinker. i can write everywhere i want, on the back of receipts, on leaflets, on tissues even, and sometimes when i do not have a pen or pencil i text myself with my own mobile. but this is where motivates me to gather all those pieces and turn them into something readable, and it makes me especially happy when sometimes, some people find their way to make torches out of this little fire. :)



i was alive when you were right here by my side
oh we both could see i needed you, you needed me





photography by sarah rhoads. what if it rains on your wedding day?